Ok so before I get on to the fun stuff I just a small managerial note I want to make to you guys. First off I want to thank you all for following me and showing interest in the things that I’m interested in; I feel like I’m simply gaining new friends in diverse places :-). So, to help you, help me, help you, I’m going to start posting every Thursday. That way it will be easier for you to know when to expect something from me and it help keep me on a definite schedule. No more hap-hazard posts, lol! Thanks guys for reading & supporting and remember every Thursday!
Ok, now that that’s out-of-the-way I wanted to talk to you guys about a book that I recently finished that really challenged the way that I thought about things, as a girl. With the campaigns like #BanBossy and #LikeAGirl the question is sweeping the nation: what are we really teaching our girls? Are we teaching them to be confident and strong or to feel inadequate and unsure of their abilities? The Confidence Code by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman, addresses these questions.
I’m not going to give an in-depth synopsis of their research, but I am going to delve into what I learned and those stories touched me. One common thread within all of the anecdotes was that everyone constantly had this fear of being wrong or being disliked. I, and I’m sure many of you, grapple with this dilemma. But why and why is this not something that men worry about?
After asking myself those questions along with many others, I discovered that the majority of my worries derive from my concerns of what other people think about my decisions. After reading this and seeing that this that this is a common thread that all women go through and eventually have to overcome for success, I felt a shift in my thinking in this area. I don’t have to agree with my “default settings” so to speak.
The only person who has to live with your choices is you, and if you don’t make them, there’s always someone ready to make them for you. Be bold and be confident on your gifts. Make a decision; the worst that can happen is that you’ll be wrong (and it’s not the end of the world).
I don’t know if you all like blogs like this…I don’t do them often. But let me know if do you or do not like them. Have you read the book? Tell me in a comment below what your takeaways were. Haven’t read the book? Share with me your thoughts on confidence (and go read the book).